When your interviewer is ghosting you

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Let me set the scene for you, homies. You see each other from across the room, your eyes meet and you're like 'Baby, where have you been all my life?' and she's like 'Well, I'm here now.' Then you exchange a few emails, share stories and getting to know each other. Then … BAM! They disappear, never to be heard from again, leaving only tears and blue ticks in their wake.

No, I'm not talking about how Lerato from that party ghosted you. I'm talking about how you had that amazing job interview and Cindy from HR is ghosting you.

Here are some tips to get her back or let her go! (Cindy, not Lerato. Lerato ain't coming back.)

Step up! Don't just sit there and scroll through her Insta page – do something! Now, I'm not saying send seven selfies an hour after the interview. I'm saying approach the situation professionally and maturely. Wait a few days after the deadline and send a short and sweet followup that expresses your continued interest.

Pro tip: include an interesting industry-related article from a verified news site.

Maak 'n plan, boet! Calling, texting, emailing and sending messenger pigeons can be … you guessed it – annoying! So control yourself. Limit yourself to two followups after the deadline date. And if the fish ain't biting, move on.

Be a ray of sunshine (even if you're more of a dark cloud)! Channel your inner Care Bear and remember to always be polite in your correspondence, even if you're feeling 'bleh'. You never know – they could be taking longer than expected to respond because they're having a hard time picking the best candidate! If you're the person in question, you don't want to ruin your chances by letting your frustration get the better of you.

What does your spidey sense tell you? Rejection is traumatising; we've all been there! In stressful situations such as this, we end up making up stories to make ourselves feel better so that we don't have to face the truth we kinda knew all along. If your spidey senses start tingling, then bow out and move on to bigger and better things. Trust your gut!

Stay woke! Judge the company based on this experience. This process may not reflect the company culture exactly, but it will give a very good idea of it. For all you know, this could be an indication of how you would be treated if you did get the job. After this experience, ask yourself, 'Do I really want to work for this company?'